The Long-Term Affects

I want to write a little about bullying. I’m sure many of you have experienced this in your childhood, and maybe experiencing it now as an adult.

Bullying is not innocent teasing. And it’s not just physical violence. Words can hurt just as much as a blow to the head. Of course the pain is quite different, but I think you get my point.

It will lower your self-esteem. It makes you second guess yourself, and make you afraid of taking risks to make your life better. Because in the back of your mind, you can hear those destructive words telling you that you’re not good enough, you’re stupid for thinking that or doing that.


After so many years of hearing those words in school and at home, I can still hear them. Picking and tearing at my brain. Holding me back from my dreams. Little by little, I’m finding the strength to get up and do the things that I want to do. I hope you are too.

The title of this post is Public and Secret Bullying. Public bullies are those who are proud to be assholes. They just come right out and tell you what they think of you. This also includes cyber bullies. Although they’re hiding behind their computers, they are making themselves known when they post nasty comments.

I try not to read comments on Facebook or Instagram because more than half the time, my eyes land on a negative or destructive comment that will just piss me off. If you feel the urge to write a negative comment about someone’s clothes or new hairdo, please don’t do it. What’s the point of that?

Wouldn’t it be better to make a comment about something you do like? Or tell the person yourself. Building someone up is the greatest gift you can give someone.

“Reality” shows are getting big ratings these days. Watching people fight and cut each other down with scathing words. Celebrity interest shows like Access Hollywood and Extra make it okay to criticize someone’s clothes or hairstyle.

One time I heard Billy Bush from Access Hollywood say that he didn’t like the way so-so looked. What? Who cares what he thinks? Unfortunately there are a lot of people who do. You might have a relative or a friend who criticizes celebrity figures for whatever reason. I call these type of people secret bullies.

Now, I know that no matter how much we try to stop bullying, there are still kids and adults who are committing suicide because they’re being bullied at school or at work because of their race, weight, sexual orientation, gender identity, or religion.

No, bullying won’t end just like racism won’t. But that doesn’t mean we can’t help by changing the way we treat others.


© Josslyn Rae Turner

2 thoughts on “Public and Secret Bullying

  1. This post hits close to home as I had to overcome years of bullying through middle school. This seems like such a long time ago, but the emotional scars, faded and no longer residing on the surface of my skin, are still around reminding me that it is possible to get to the other side of it all.


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